Teen Gothic

Does it bother you that goths get fetishised so much? It genuinely bothers me like I want to dress the way I do for myself, not for anyone else and I definitely do not want to be cat called when I go out because I’m a goth and fetishised

I was laughing at this Tiktok that was talking about how goths destroyed the temple of Artemis and the comments were like “my bad” and there was one comment that was like “destroyed by people who listen to MCR” and my smile never dropped so fast 😭 like not the MCR 😭😭(no shade to them ofc, love those guys)

just curious why so many people post here asking about goth culture stuff, almost like they're afraid….

i'm not really talking about when people ask about the music per-se…. but rather mostly about interacting/socializing with other goths/how to act at goth events…..

it's almost like people have this stereotype in their heads and pre-conceived notions that people who listen to goth are all alike and need to act a certain way around other goths.

so many people are insecure about being goth or being around other goths and are overly sensitive and intimidated about goth stuff.

i sort of see this in other music genre cultures, like punks who want to know how to act at a punk show or something like that. this is a little more understandable, cause people don't want to end up with a black eye.

but i can't figure it out about goth.

why do people feel the need to be so cautious about wanting to join goth communities or go to goth shows or club night or feel that they need some sort of validation from everyone to be apart of the community?

personally i don't give a flying fuck about what others think… ESPECIALLY about listening to goth music…. and certainly about wanting to partake in events with other goths.

what is it about the culture that makes you so insecure?

it's really easy:

1. have interest in goth music
2. show up to goth event
3. meet other goths

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that's it…. thats all you need to do…

all this fashion, attitude, persona stuff….intimidation bs…… is just……… garbage….

i really enjoy goth music and bands, specifically (but not limited to) sisters of mercy, joy division, siouxsie and the banshees, killing joke, specimen, bauhaus, and the march violets. however, i don't wear trad goth clothes nor makeup, and i never have. am i considered goth?

As the title says, I've recently gotten super into gothic fashion after admiring it for most of my life, and I finally built up the confidence to start buying and creating outfits from a local alternative fashion store in the past few months. I absolutely love how it looks on me and already have amassed quite a wardrobe of goth wear, from dresses to corsets to pentagram skirts, and have even started learning new makeup skills to match.

Through this I've ended up reconnecting with an old friend from back in school who has been wearing goth fashion for years and whose fashion sense really inspired me back in the day. Today I sent her a text with pics of some of my new outfits and was excited to want to talk with her again; however the response she had confused me.

She essentially told me while goth fashion is fun, "just don't forget to educate yourself on all the goth subculture too." I feel this is phrased weirdly as if it was more of a warning rather than an invitation to learn more about what being goth meant as I assumed at first.

This has left me a bit confused, and I can't tell if she's supportive of my new style or slightly gatekeep-y. Is she saying I can't wear gothic fashion if I don't understand the intricacies of goth subculture? Is this a suggestion that how I've gone about wearing goth fashion is wrong and that I need to educate myself on how to wear it properly? Or is it simply a friendly suggestion to look into the subculture that could help me improve wearing gothic attire?

Would anyone have some idea of what this could mean and how important educating yourself on the goth subculture is? Thank you in advance!